Sunday, November 2, 2008

A message to the haters

Dear Friends, Family and haters,

Not too long ago out of the blue I started getting hate mail from a few people (about the time I was outed at work) calling me childish names, calling me selfish and a asshole. I debated for a while if I should reply to the crap and I finally decided the other day to replied to their messages and comments on my Vblog and elsewhere. Of course my reply was met with a canceled email id, which seemed to mean to me that they just created the id to slam me and then run away from the issue, which didn’t surprise me at all. I have a challenge to these people, If you’re so disgusted with what I’m doing with me life (I don’t know why you even care) why hide behind a fake email. Be honest and reveal your true self as I have. I have been honest and upfront in all my blogs and vblogs and I’m not hiding anymore, so why should you hide behind your little screen name. Are you afraid I may have something to say that may make since to you. I’ve come out to my family and close friends and many at work. I refuse to let anyone outside my family dictate how to run my life. Since I have the support of my family in this decision, that is all that matters. Even if I didn’t have their support, if I decided to still continue with my transition it is my decision and my decision alone.

I also wonder what their fascination is with my privates. It seems that most of the haters seem to bring this up. I don’t understand why they always ask the STUPID question "Are you going to cut your d#$% off". Of course in a hateful way. First off, If and when I’m ready for the SRS, these people would be the last to find out, because this is a personal issue and I’ll make that decision when I’m ready. Besides, IT’S NONE OF YOUR FRIGGIN BUISNISESS ?

As noted in my original reply, I have been diagnosed with a legitimate medical condition called GID (Gender Identity Disorder). There are millions of people around the world that were born with this condition but a majority of them just never tell anyone. I was one of those people many years ago. But I can’t keep it in the closet no more. I’m tired of hiding my condition and I refuse to let anyone try and stop me from doing what I need to do to treat the condition. I have suffered from it long enough and for once in my life I know that this is the right path for me. So in closing, Yes I’m a transsexual and I’m proud of that fact. I was born this way and will always be a transsexual. I will move forward with my transition and finally live my life as it should have been in the first place. You may call me selfish, but let me ask you this, How is it selfish to want to be true to one self and be the person I know myself to be?

Here is my original reply that couldn’t be delivered:
I'm not sure what your problem is with me, but I can assure you that I'm not the one with any problems with my decision to transition. I know for sure that this is the path I need to take. It seems to me that you are the one with issues. Maybe you should be the one to see the shrink and figure out why me being transsexual makes you so insecure. I have a legitimate medical condition (biological) . Do the research yourself or are you to lazy minded to even do that. If you or anyone else can't handle the truth then don't waste my time with your childish name calling games. I have the support of my family and friends and that's all that matters to me. I really don't care what you think and nothing you or anyone else says will change my decision to transition. Have a great day :)


Stephanie said...

It amazes me, and irks me, that people think they know what's best for someone else. Anyone that takes the time to write a hateful email must have their own issues with their gender or sexuality. The extent of your transition is up to you. Your the only one that can live your life, you know what makes you happy. Always live it with your head held high. Hugs...

Michelle said...

Hi Stephanie,
Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I agree with everything that you said. I sometimes wonder why other people are so concerned with what we do with our life's. But I guess some people will never change. What I have seen though, is that options are finally changing with many of the positive media that we have been getting. But there is still room for change (subject for another blog, lol). Anyways, thanks again for commenting. I hope that you will always hold your head high also. Take care.
Hugs Michelle

Shauna said...

Hi hun you don't know me but I have been reading your blog because we are sisters. This blog sadden me that people are that way, though I haven't heard anyone say anything bad towards me except one (maybe because I can hack into their pc)lol. The one such gentleman I used to work with that now thinks I am gay, here is a guy I worked with for 9 years and I am gay because I have Intersex hmm, that's an idiot. Just turn your cheek because there are quite a few there that aren't educated.

Gender and sexual preference are two different things.

Like the idiot, I just agreed with him, I said yes as a woman I am gay I am labeled a lesbian thank you for asking.


Michelle said...

Hi Shauna,
Thanks so much for your comment. I love your response. If you don't mind I may use it the next time I'm confronted with that question. Actually today, I came out to our network guy (I work in the IT department also - Programmer), and he mentioned that rumors where going around that I liked men, I told him they didn't have to worry about that because I have no interest in men and plus, I'm married. He claims he didn't believe it, but time will tell. Its funny in a way that people will automatically think I'm gay and attracted to men just because I'm trans. But it also saddens me that people will so quickly have that knee JERK reaction. Anyways, Talk to you soon and thanks for stopping by and taking time out to read my blog. I'll be following your also.
Hugs Michelle